Curb your enthusiasm, bro.

What to do when you are frustrated by others’ reactions

This week’s 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast talks about frustration in growth and development.

Father and son hosts David and Joshua Specht bring a generational perspective on the friction caused by making changes to improve your business or personal life, which generates frustration for you and/or the people around you.

Your generational lesson: If you want to enact change on something you’re excited about or have strong opinions about, but it’s not being received, recognize it’s because the audience is wrong, you’re bad at explaining it to them, or you’re already trying to change too much.

Your Gen. X Advice: The older you get, the more you have to work at taking risks. When you’re 50-plus, opportunities are diminishing and the desire for security is important, so you need to deal with the frustration caused by your own internal conflict.

Your Gen. Z Advice: Sometimes, your same message needs to be relayed to employees from someone else. If you’re preaching the same idea or multiple changes, having a different voice offer the vision can cause your employees to not get frustrated.

If you’ve ever brought in an idea to improve your business or life, and that same enthusiasm is met with blank stares, it takes the wind out of you. Now, you’re frustrated that others don’t share your vision.

Realize that you are running a story in your head, and it doesn’t always gel with another person’s story. When your enthusiasm falls flat, it’s hurtful to you but others are oblivious to the effect because they don’t share your experience.

If you’re a leader and you’re exposed to something you know is beneficial for your company, then it’s your job to sell it to everyone but also hold them accountable until they truly “get it”.

Take as second to acknowledge there’s frustration on both sides: For you when your employees don’t see the big picture, and on your people’s side because they’re frustrated by having to change. 

To force it through, it means you have to be more frustrated than your employees because you have to be persistent in driving that change.

However, don’t always be changing. Whatever you’re inspired by at the moment can’t keep causing you to change because that makes you inconsistent.